The Talent Within

by Alan Hewitt on April 25, 2012

By Lorel Langemeier
April 25, 2012

We are given everything we need to have the lives we want.

Before you read on, really think about that. It is in you, in your make-up, to be who you want to be. Perhaps conditioning and experiences have repressed those wonderful gifts given to you as part of your creation, but they are still there, and they are still yours.

Each of us has talents and skills that are part of our very being. Even better, each of us has a distinct set of tools that are our own. And that’s why we are here. To discover, uncover and use those gifts, and to share them with others.

Many people don’t really know their gifts. More amazing is how many people have an inkling of instinct about, but then deny, their gifts. Equally bad are those of us who don’t support the gifts of others. Judgment and criticism can stall a life, yet many give it and allow themselves to receive it.

As Marianne Williamson said so wonderfully well, and Nelson Mandela made famous in his 1994 inauguration speech:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Life is a field of opportunity open to planting seed, cultivating and harvesting. We need to live it big. Since you’re engaging and changing the conversation a good question to ask is what’s the big game you’re going to play?

If you often find yourself tired and in despair, perhaps you’re just sick of playing small. I’d even venture to say that your body is rebelling against the decay of your gifts, the fact that you have these wonderful instincts, traits, behaviours, characteristics and abilities that you’re not nurturing or supporting. Gifts are given to us for a reason – to use them.

Now you may be reading this thinking …

“What gifts? Loral doesn’t know me. I can’t sing, I can’t draw, I have no gifts. I have a job that takes up nine hours of my day, a family that needs meals prepared and the bills to be paid, and a spouse who’d like some attention once in awhile. My only gift is that I can get up every morning and get through it all again.”

If this is the message streaming around your brain right now, turn it off. You have no idea how many great gifts you have that you are either a) ignoring, b) using for small, meaningless purposes, or c) giving away. There are too many who undervalue or give away their talents, who treat their gifts as if they are nothing and so extend talents and skills without reaping the proper rewards.

When we use, share, and value our gifts properly, we receive rewards in the form of positive, regenerating energy and optimism. If we give away our value, even literally, by extending our skills and talents without getting paid or recognised, it depletes energy and creates a negative attitude.

Yes! Energy requires us to uncover and nurture even inconspicous skills to efficiently source energy and attitude. Gifts, when used correctly, can be super powers.

Energy Types and The Gifts That Support Them

Let’s consider first all the energy and attitude to which you should aspire. Then let’s look at the gifts you have that can help you attain these. I mentioned a few of these earlier, but now let’s get into it.

Leading, Directed, Open Energy:

This energy is calm and focused. As you’ll see in sequencing, my purpose is ahead of my output. I consider what it is I want to accomplish and what I hope to transmit to others. Often, I will help my energy with language such as: “What do I hope to accomplish with this meeting/conversation?” before I go into the situation.

By latching my energy onto my goal, my energy pulls me toward that which I want. I’m focused, I hone-in. But I also need to be somewhat, to a degree, flexible and adaptable. Balancing the directed with the open requires …

The Gifts of Intention and Conviction.

This is revealed in many ways.

Maybe you were the type of kid about whom was said, “He/she, sure knows what they want” because you spent hours on task or would endlessly attempt to talk your way into something. And, suppose, now, you find yourself often accommodating others, because there is nothing more important than our relationships and our families and we will do what it takes to make it work.

Both of these seemingly unrelated traits reveal a gift of intention and conviction. If we can navigate our lives to push our own or others objectives, then we can cultivate an energy that streamlines us to our own. There are few human beings more exciting than those who have intention and conviction.

If in your lifetime you’ve shown the capacity and agility to monitor, anticipate and act so as to accomplish a specific goal, for you or others, that’s the sign of intention and that gift can give you leading energy.

Intuitive Energy: When I’m operating at my highest, all-cylinders energy, I’m feeling the vibrations intuitively. I feel those moments when I’m with my kids, when I’m skiing, when I’m in great conversation, when I’m feeling intimacy, and when I’m connecting, even from a distance, with others vibrating with a strong desire to have exciting, supercharged, big lives.

This requires:

The Gifts of Empathy and Emotions:

I live success and failure through every cell of my body. Unlike those who profess to be compartmentalised with their emotions, I can’t do that.

Yes, I compartmentalise my work day and events and activities, so that I’m efficient and one thing doesn’t bleed into another, but my feelings and thoughts are fully integrated.

Though I process logically and act with a constructive mix of thought and feel, I live every inch of my life, the good and the bad, through my cells, my gut, my very being.

And I know I’m not alone. But there are too many people who feel guilty or insecure because they have this constant flow of emotion mixed with their energy. And so they work to suppress thoughts and emotions. I refuse to do that.

Empathy and emotion are gifts and to suppress them wastes the very energy we want to bolster. It’s time for those who feel bad that they feel bad to stop apologising for their emotions. Yes, it is possible to be a full human being and have extreme optimism and energy.

Those who don’t already own this gift can cultivate it. During an unfortunate visit to the hospital, for kidney stones, my doctor was beyond compassionate. I appreciated his humanity and personal attention.

“Went through it myself,” he said. “Otherwise might not be.”

There it was, empathy through experience. That’s how we gain most of ours.

“I’m thinking that should be a prerequisite for getting a woman pregnant,” he continued.

“Empathy?” I asked.

“Passing a kidney stone,” he said. “I was compassionate in the room with her because I’d felt like I’d gone through something similar.”

“Well, sort of,” I said, not empathetic enough to betray my gender’s claim to the worst pain ever.

Present, Engaged Energy:

Though it’s nice to be able to multi-task in this day and age, there’s something very attractive about a person who is present and engaged. This type of energy pulsates through a situation, taking charge by grabbing hold of the moment and encompassing everyone in its path.

It’s quiet, but not contained, and it has the calm, certain, confidence that represents. The present, engage energy pays attention and is able to sense and see what is really going on.

This requires:

The Gifts of Awareness and Patience.

Life moves at its own speed, not ours. Everything we do seems to have its own timetable. We can’t fix the past or predict the future. And yet, there are many who live their lives looking back or jumping ahead. Present energy has to be in the present.

Those who are engaged are here and now. And that’s not easy to do. It takes the gift of being aware and patient with the speed and timetable of life, of being here and not there.

When obstacles present themselves is a good time to know if you have the gift of awareness and patience. In those times, if you have an overall perception that these trials are not forever, and that better times are coming, you have these gifts.

Calm heads always prevail. Usually people in care giving and life saving lines of work have this skill set.
And it can certainly be cultivated. One of the best ways to generate this gift is to model those who have it.

If someone grabs your attention by grabbing you with their energy, they are most certainly, present and engaged. Spend some time observing them and watch for signs of awareness and patience. Ask them about their views, their habits.

I’ve found too that those with engaged energy, who are aware and patient, are able to draw upon their faith.

Sensitive Energy:

There’s a great gift that comes from both instinct and learning and that’s Level 3 Listening, as explained in the great book by Laura Whitworth, Henry Kinsey-House, and Phil Sandahl, Co-Active Coaching: New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success in Work and Life.

There are three levels of listening. Level 1 is listening to yourself and the blast of stimuli. It’s mostly noisy and reactive. Level 2 is conversation and connection. It’s very much in the moment.

Level 3 is a calm, almost omniscient level of listening where you can hear, and understand, and sometimes anticipate all of the obvious and inconspicuous signals to dig into the essence of what’s being said.

People who can engage Level 3 Listening have a sensitive energy. This operates much like intuitive energy, but is anchored more in the external, than the internal.

It requires …

The Gift of Compassion.

The gracious act of compassion is undervalued. It’s a wonderful thing to see men or women who open their minds, throw off intolerance, and open their hearts to others. There are a lot of variations on the human form, a lot of different paths on this planet, and so many different ways of thinking and acting. A capacity to appreciate this tapestry seems to drive sensitive energy.

Compassion is the gift of not forcing logical arguments to defend or justify, but rather just supporting. This gift opens up the brain and the gut and every cell to feel the energy around them and be open to the unexpected. Those with empathy usually apply their own relevant experiences, but those with compassion often reach out without any understanding.

Those who have compassion don’t have a filter judging and reframing, so they can collect a lot of information and are exposed to many sides of a situation. They serve others. This increases their experience and, as a result, expands their sensitive energy.

A compassionate person will tolerate a lot more of the options than someone with preconceived notions, narrow considerations, and biases, and so their learning and growth can be exponential.

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About the Author

A New York Times, USA Today and Amazon bestselling author and a leading entrepreneurial speaker, Lorel Langemeier has coached thousands of success stories around the world by giving them the simple tools to generate cash and build wealth.

As a single working mother, dynamic speaker/motivator and owner of a business (Live Out Loud, Inc); Langemeier lights up the room and elicits change for the better.

Langemeier has appeared frequently on CNN, CNBC, The Street TV, Fox News Channel, Fox Business Channel-America’s Nightly Scoreboard, The Dr. Phil Show and The View. Langemeier has been featured in articles and appeared in USA Today, The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times, and on the web at, and as a regular online contributor with the Huffington Post, The Bottom Line, Yahoo7Finance, and

She was recognized by Forbes Magazine, in September 2011, as a standout woman in business. She also appeared in and contributed to The Secret. Loral has spoken in-person in front of tens-of-thousands of people and helped create hundreds of new millionaires.

Loral constantly strives to give back to her community and society as a whole. She is a frequent donor to charitable groups including, the Boys and Girls Club of America, Life School and Family Resource Centers, An Empowered Woman Foundation and the Bear League Lake Tahoe.

She has developed special programs for women and for children, as well as entrepreneurs. Most recently she has formed Serve Out Loud aimed at providing discount education to United States Veterans.

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