3 Unusual Goals to Make Your Life Sing

What Goal Are You Taking on in 2012?

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John January 11, 2012 at 1:01 AM

Thanks Alan and Joe. Very inspiring. My goal for 2012 is to work less hours so I have more time for my family. Also, meditate for at least 13 minutes each evening.
Thank you, John.

Loretta Ward January 11, 2012 at 3:07 AM

Thank you Allan and Joe for providing the inspiration to think of a few rewarding resolutions for 2012. This year I am concentrating on me! Sound selfish? Not to my way of thinking. I have spent 28 yeas raising 4 beautiful daughters and now that they have all completed school and are taking more responsibility for their own lives I now have the time to think more about me. The 3 goals that you spoke about, Joe, have ignited in me the courage to take one day at a time and to live out 2012 with my resolutions developing and helping me to have a great year.

Ms. Diana Wilson January 11, 2012 at 4:16 AM

What were the 3 again ? My mind was with you at the time…but due to distractions…family packing to go away….my concentration..? I could have done with a quick SUMARY of the three before you signed off.
Thanks anyway. I will remember in time maybe …. or see it again. What we do absorb is the tone and manner of the person whoin this case was quite humble, sincere and self effacing and of genuine disposition…..all characteristics I could do well to emulate….. You do not create waves Joe…..so no wonder the Bulldog did not get a rise out of you. …. well done.

Have a great 2012.

Vanessa Atadeniz January 13, 2012 at 9:07 AM

Hi Bodhi,

I had time to pause and take notes, the three points are:
1) have courage to be loyal to you, commit to you being all of you. Have the courage to say the things that need to be said. Find time for you. Instead of putting others ahead of you, put you on the same level. Pamper yourself more than normal. Play the game of life full out!
2) complete incomplete relationships. This will give you inner peace and a regret-free life. Phone 3 people you have incomplete relationships with (such as awkward, can’t understand, last contact was confrontational etc.) and say “I don’t know what’s happened between us but I’m cool with that, I’m happy to start with a clean slate if you are”- this will recover relationships.
3) Get over yourself. Be more playful, fun, love more. There is too much terminal seriousness in the world today! Love more, live life deeper rather than faster. Enjoy the moment, laugh at your mistakes!

All the best

Stacey January 11, 2012 at 4:23 AM

Thankyou guys, that was exactly what i needed to hear to get my goals for 2012 moving along. The first one spoke to me the most, because i am one who doesnt necessarily put myself and my needs ahead of the rest. It was very motivating and aspirational.


Geraldine Riley January 11, 2012 at 4:38 AM

Thank you Joe and Alan for threeinciteful ways to bring warmth and love into our lives. Geraldine

Geraldine Riley January 11, 2012 at 4:43 AM

I hope over 2012 I manage to implement your tips, I am sure they will make for better relationships all round. Thank you. Geraldine

Rachel January 11, 2012 at 6:21 AM

Great goals.
I do the first one already ,will do the 2nd one and relish the 3rd.

Margaret Mitchell January 11, 2012 at 7:18 AM

These are three of the most important basics in life that I know , but am always side tracked thank you again Joe for this reminder. The simplist are not always easy.

Wayne January 11, 2012 at 7:20 AM

Thanks Guys for some good insightful Info.


Judy January 11, 2012 at 8:39 AM

Thank you Alan for introducing Joe Pane, and thank you Joe for the tips for 2012. To me Tip 3 would appear to be a most pertinent reminder to release a dose of humour into a tense situation; surely a therapeutic response.



Colette January 11, 2012 at 10:11 AM

Thanks Alan and Joe for sharing your tips.
2012 is all about me – sound selfish? No. Ihave 9 children and my last little man is off to school this year. I decided sometime ago that every fortnight of the 2012 school year I would do something just for me AND NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!!!!! ( The first thing I’m going to do is booked for the first day school returns – a facial, full massage and triple eye treat. Sorry guys , it’s a girl thing. Very necessary for me , our family of 11 consists of just two females and 9 males. I need girl time.)
Your advice makes such simple and wonderful sense, look forward to hearing more, Colette

Jen January 11, 2012 at 10:29 AM

I love the third one and think we all need a reminder about not taking ourselves too seriously. It’s much more fun to laugh at our selves rather than getting bogged down in taking every moment too seriously. Life really is too short.

Jutta Numata January 11, 2012 at 11:36 AM

Thanks for succinct and eloquent advice, really like it. Not sure how to ring an old badly ended relationship that was hard to complete in the first place, but I can see that if it’s done successfully it would bring lots of peace! Is it important for the phone call to go well or simply to do it? It’s ancient history but ghosts stick around if not properly buried. Thank you for posting, I’ll focus on those .

Georgie February 22, 2012 at 12:56 AM

Hi Jutta,

I’m the same like you. Not sure how to ring an old badly ended relationships. But if properly done, it will sure bring inner peace to our souls that was once broken.
Like you said, it’s ancient history, but their ghosts stick around if NOT properly buried (I like the way you interpret this !) The memories of these ghosts linger around you, if you have unfininshed business w/them. I think we just have to do this in a civil/diplomatic way, regardless .
How? I haven’t figure it out yet.. but will soon do it.

Lorraine Shields January 11, 2012 at 12:07 PM

Hi Guys, What I want for my Life this year!!! Is to finish a book I started writing.
The book is for my five sons & anyone else that may find it interesting.
If I was to die tomorrow, my only regret would be that my book is not yet finished. The book is about a young widow (me) with five sons & the innermost thoughts, fears & emotions of the darkest time of her life. It is about an inner journey & her struggles. Perhaps revealing unanswered questions, Giving insight into a dedicated human being, trying to survive to see her children come through thier fathers suicide. I want my children to know me as the young girl I was at the time & not just mum. Iwant them to know how it was every step of the way . It Is shuch an emotional thing to do & very draining, but also very rewarding. I have learnt so much from my husbands suicide & I am on nothing but an inward journey. I want them to know everything I have learnt, the riches of my experiences good & bad & the depth of my being. I really want to get my book finished in 2012. Tips on staying focused & completing tasks & waking one’s self up; especially when one knows they could be doing more, would be much appreciated. Also how does one encounter trying to live a better life with many around whom dont seem interested? Sometimes I feel like a freak because I am so very different from the rest of my family & I know this sometimes takes away a lot of my energy, just being in certain peoples company drains me. How does one seperate their self? Sometimes It would seem easier to succumb to thier ways, but I know I never will, I have been through to much to give in. It seems really hard when I feel I am way above them; & I dont say that to be egotistical. I’m sure you will understand what I mean. Thanks for taking the time to read my Questions & I hope I have not asked tooooo many.
Health & Happiness;
Lorraine 🙂

george January 12, 2012 at 4:26 AM

I understand what you mean re. fealing above those around you, when you have been on the “journey” its like you are on a different train going in a different direction people just dont understand[I was widowed a few years ago]finish the book I would love to read it

Jeanie January 12, 2012 at 3:55 PM

Hi Lorraine, CANT WAIT TO READ YOUR BOOK! and after reading your comment my thoughts were ….A WOMAN OF COURAGE, STRENGTH AND DETERMINATION! Although I don’t know you I just felt so very touched. I believe you WILL finish your book this year! Take care …. Jean

beth duncan January 11, 2012 at 12:38 PM

Hi Joe, You have said things that are so simple that one would think we would all be doing it. Of course we don’t and follow old patterns that make us stressed and missing the joy of life. I love the idea of not taking myself so seriously. I am going to focus on this seriously!

Claudette Thomas January 11, 2012 at 8:45 PM

Ive listened to what you say.
If my comments sound arrogant so be it. I know all this already. Just naothe soul trying to find the answers that resonate long term.
thanks anyway
love and light

arthur frauenfelder January 11, 2012 at 11:17 PM


Sandi January 12, 2012 at 12:25 AM

Joe – thank you for sharing from your heart, and wanting peace happiness and joy for all. My thoughts for 2012, were in fact that this would be a year, that would be all about developing and sustaining meaningful relationships. My husband (the best part of me) passed away 2 years ago and recently I became aware how for the first time in my life, without realizing it I have succumbed to a victim mentality, a trait I have never owned or wanted to own. So…… this of course has to go and I believe that by reaching out to be there for others in need of support, getting over myself and to begin to engage in life with an attitude of fun will all be part of my personal goals this year. I have always tended to worry and taking life too seriously, but we are all responsible for our own happiness whatever the season of life we are in and our heavenly Father knows and provides for all our needs.

Helen January 12, 2012 at 12:35 AM

Thank you – I picked up the phone during this video and sent a message to my daughter whom I haven’t heard from in 5 months. No reply yet, but I have taken a step towards mending the gap.

rhonda January 12, 2012 at 12:51 AM

Hi John thank you for these points,my most important points
is to get better and be more positive in my life for 2012.

shane January 12, 2012 at 1:03 AM

My goals for this year are to be able to be employed in a meaningfull job both working weekends at my usual post and have my regular job where i can again save for another property again.
Second I also wish to study this year after hours at nnightschool and continue learning IT some that it may lead to a usefull position in employment in years to come.
Lastly and not in this order I wish to meet the love of my life in 2012.
So over being single I hate it with a passion.

Jimi January 12, 2012 at 1:07 AM

Hi Joe. Have just listened to your video and am about to pick up the phone. The “Get over yourself” tip was hard to hear but relevant as I am stuck in emotions and this may help me move forward. Thank you

Eudosia January 12, 2012 at 1:11 AM

Hi Joe!

Thank you for this great information. This is what I need for my life starting 2012
This is an eye-opener., great tips for us longing to live a maravellos life.


Eudosia January 12, 2012 at 1:13 AM

I mean great tips to live a marvellous life.


Jacqueline Johns January 12, 2012 at 1:49 AM

Hey Joe,

Love the tips!
Love the video!
Love the attitude!

Live Life Happy!

DR.MOLLY KOORAN MATHAI January 12, 2012 at 2:34 AM


All the tips are awsome..


Maggie January 12, 2012 at 2:38 AM

Hi Joe

Love the tips. Will sure to put them into use over the coming year!


Ian January 12, 2012 at 3:24 AM

Well, I am happy as I am and to get more has been out of my reach for many years. I guess the message is to live with it and get on with live taking the video message home.

george January 12, 2012 at 4:40 AM

Hi Joe
All I want in 2012 is a prescription that will prove that there is a God and restore my faith in mankind restore my faith in the professions If you could please do that in the first 5 minuts we can get down to the serious stuff. thanks. george.

catherine January 12, 2012 at 4:58 AM

hi alan
i liked listening to message would love to do all and
live a more peaceful life regards catherine

Steve Beatty January 12, 2012 at 5:13 AM

Thanks Alan and Joe. I met Joe back in August in Sydney for a coaching intake weekend and was pleasantly surprised to see him on this website. Love your work and inspiration. Thanks again.

Jody January 12, 2012 at 5:35 AM

Tks for the message. The first resolution is the one most appropriate for me. I’m so busy being loyal and caring that I’m my own casualty. Most times I don’t treat myself like a friend and worse than an enemy. It’s the biggest challenge of my life and it is this message I will take with me into 2012.

Your second resolution is well said. For example, I have observed that when there is a death the ones who truly suffer the most are those who for whatever ‘good reason’ did clear the slate with the person who passed away. Don’t let people you care about become regrets that haunt you for the rest of your life for lack of a quiet heartfelt word.

The third resolution provides insight that I believe to be axiomatic. If you can’t laugh, what’s the use of living?

Cheers to all.

Anna van Raay January 12, 2012 at 5:55 AM

The video consolidated the thought for me to contact my ex husband, father of my 5 children, to say good bye to him as he is dying of cancer. We have not been in contact for many years and I wish for him to know that “I am cool” with whatever happened in the past and to thank him for the good parts.

N January 12, 2012 at 7:51 AM

Your story about the dog reminded me of a time when I had a problem with my car alarm – it randomly went off while I was driving. Although it was embarrassing I was laughing hard to myself at what people must be thinking of me driving along with the alarm blaring.

Ria Waikerepuru January 12, 2012 at 8:00 AM

Hi, thank you for the tips. They all sit comfortably with me and i liked the descriptions you gave. I will integrate them into my 2012 year and will feedback as i am able to in the future.


rhonda January 12, 2012 at 8:42 AM

thankyou alan, number 2 is just what i needed to hear yes that is going to be what i do this year, actully im going to make the call soon. number one ive learnt to apply this year, more to the point i had too,it was quite hard to begin with cause ive always put myself last, well most of the time anyway.number three has always been me. thankyou. rhonda

Marg January 12, 2012 at 10:51 AM

Thanks for these 3 guiding principles. I don’t usually ‘Do’ NY resolutions as such, finding my sadhana (or spiritual) community’s yearly NY focus my primary nourishment throughout the year. However, during December 2011 I found myself saying “In 2012 my goals are going to be fitness and writing”. A few days later I was asked if I would like to help next year (as a vol) with the writing for a dvd biography project, working with people living in nursing homes. I said yes. That resolution also fuels my writing to you now… and relates to your 1st resolution Having the Courage to be loyal to MySelf…which is a great way of putting it.. and for me the phrase seems to also jump me (like a short cut-link)..into the here and now which of course is where I want to be. No 2 is something that’s been on my mind lately so ..thanks for reminding me. And No 3 is always worth reminding me of. Getting Over Myself is a Serious Whole of Life Project. I’m hoping scientists will come up with a genetic tweaking system on it before I die! Thanks again. Marg

kidane January 12, 2012 at 12:02 PM

I love it. thank you.

Margarita January 12, 2012 at 1:48 PM

Thank you very much! its uplifting,optimistic message! I wish all the best to you and your Family in New Year!

Marisa January 12, 2012 at 8:56 PM

Thanks Joe,
Great message, a message that should reach us all but the more simplistic the message the harder it is for some to understand or follow through. I love the example of the dog and the laughter. Keep up the great work. Love and Blessings Marisa

Rachel January 12, 2012 at 10:13 PM

My resolution: Not to make any resolutions!

Robyn January 13, 2012 at 1:02 AM

Thanks for the reminder. All very useful & helpful points. I will share them all with friends, family & colleagues.

Yvonne January 13, 2012 at 1:27 AM

Thanks for your help. The video worked in the end. Also thanks for the tips very helpful as I seem to put everyone before myself

William January 13, 2012 at 5:13 AM

I found that your third tip reminded me of something I havent done for a while that is to stand in front of a mirror with a watch nearby and for 5 minutes smile at your reflection By the end of it you cant help but to be laughing Laughter is definetely good medicine for you self. thank you for reminding me of this.

Linda January 13, 2012 at 5:15 AM

Thanks Joe,

Certainly three useful tips for all. I have just started laughter yoga and found it to be a wonderful release from the serious side to life – so ‘more playful’ does it for me!

a January 13, 2012 at 2:22 PM

thanks for your positivity always helpfull but

Christine January 16, 2012 at 3:28 PM

I wish you and your family fulfilment of all the three tips and I thank you for appearing so open and approachable in your video. Your tips are already my wishes for 2012 and for my lifetime, but I had not been able to catagorise them. So thanks.
Your second tip has so far been unsuccessful for me. The sadness I feel for my estranged daughter who is unable to let go of bitterness has torn me apart for severl years and if I die without her trying to accept my attempts to reconcile, I think it would be a terrible burden on her. My question then is how do you deal with such a situation?
Painful illness can make people prisoners so I urge people in severe pain to embrace it and be grateful as it then gives you wisdom.
You are a credit to your profession, God Bless and thank you.

Gloria January 16, 2012 at 4:07 PM

Thanks Joe
I appreciate the wisdom, simplicity and the practicality of your tips which will help to address past issues and live with joy in the present by being true to self. Thanks again.

Karen January 18, 2012 at 12:03 AM

Thank you so much Joe & Alan for an inspiring, down-to-earth video. I lost
my mum last year, after caring for her for 14 years. My present goals are to rest, heal, & rejuvenate, and gather my personal energies together, before I incorporate any major ‘earthly’ goals.

Marie January 27, 2012 at 5:37 AM

Three very good tips. I’m concentrating on becoming well this year. After suffering depression for years, I hope to reconnect with old friends I have neglected. Learning to love my self again, and treat life more playfully. Life is tough sometimes but we need to lighten up.

Rose Barbaro February 15, 2012 at 12:26 AM

Thanks Alan, and thanks Joe Pane, for your tips and reminder to be selfish sometime
and not to fail t follow through and not take ourself seriously, your tips would bring
lots of peace thanks Joe.

Suzanne Pollinger February 29, 2012 at 10:05 PM

Angels of Inspiration.
I Thank You.
No 2 is the big one for me this year!
Wishing you Peace Beyond Understanding.

pauline March 21, 2012 at 3:59 PM

Hi Joe,

I have a son your age. You are so alike in attitude. I like it. Then, I have a special friend. He and I are always laughing with and at each other. Sometimes with little reason. It feels so good to be together: there is something about laughter, like having a spirit of lightness skipping along beside us, sharing our everyday life. P.