Ditch Archives - Heal your health yourself Know more, Feel better Fri, 07 Jan 2022 19:17:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 5 Ways to Ditch the Resolution in 2022 and Create the Solution https://healyourhealthyourself.com/5-ways-to-ditch-the-resolution-in-2022-and-create-the-solution/ https://healyourhealthyourself.com/5-ways-to-ditch-the-resolution-in-2022-and-create-the-solution/#respond Fri, 07 Jan 2022 19:17:25 +0000 https://healyourhealthyourself.com/5-ways-to-ditch-the-resolution-in-2022-and-create-the-solution/ As another new year is upon us, millions upon millions of people have already carved out their resolutions for the new year.  Some will want to lose weight, others will want to make more money, or possibly even get rid of a bad habit.  The Google search definition of the term resolution is the decision […]

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As another new year is upon us, millions upon millions of people have already carved out their resolutions for the new year.  Some will want to lose weight, others will want to make more money, or possibly even get rid of a bad habit.  The Google search definition of the term resolution is the decision to do something or not do something.

It also yielded a second definition as being the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.  I would almost bet that for those who will be declaring a New Year resolution for 2022, haven’t put significant thought to the steps that they will need to take to see their resolution to its logical conclusion.

The previous year was a huge discovery year for me.  It has opened up many new doors and opportunities, it has closed some, and it has taught me a lot about myself and the things I need to add to life and those things that I need to eliminate.  That is why I am ditching the new year resolution bandwagon and jumping on the new year solution train.

According to the same Google search, the definition of solution is the means of solving a problem or dealing with a difficult situation.  I think that so many people are running through life with the anticipation of just getting by, majority are living paycheck to paycheck, and for so many they are putting down one vice just to pick up another.  

While many might disagree with me here, I personally believe that the difference in always having to create a new year resolution year over year or enacting a new year solution are the calculated and thought out steps of how you will achieve a new beginning or outcome and only move forward rather than looking to stop a habit that you keep repeating.  

Below are my five keys to make your solutions stick in 2022 and beyond:

1. Set Your Goals

Setting your goals is vital and while many say that they have goals, there is something to be said for writing them down and consistently looking at them every single day.  This daily reminder is important because you are more likely to move towards solving the problems your goals are based upon by always having them in your windshield.  

Also make sure that your goals are those meant to please you first and not to please others first.  It’s important to know that the more realistic you get with the goals you want to achieve, the more realistic others will get around you in terms of helping you get there.

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins

2. Limit Your Circle Of Influence

Shrink the circle of those you call confidants.  What I found to be an issue for me last year was having a lack of focus on achieving a goal first before I started to try and set another one or even move on to a bigger one.  I also noticed that I had too many mentors and was a part of too many groups that I was using to help me, guide me, and learn from.  

What I learned is that having too many voices is more of a crutch than a help for any person looking to improve their situation.  Get very clear first on who you are and what you want to truly achieve and then build a tight knit circle of those around you that will, no matter what, help push you towards your achievements and keep you focused on the tasks at hand.

3. Create A Habit Of Consistency

Consistency is a behavior that everyone should be looking to create for themselves in the new year.   It shows diligence, professionalism, and an overall sense of dedication to one’s self.  The muscle memory you will build through a consistent routine of action day after day will not create short term wins but will rather build the blueprint of long term gains.

By creating consistency in your daily routine, activities, personal and professional actions, you are setting yourself up to become more trustworthy by your peers, confident in yourself, and self-aware of what truly matters most on your path to achieving your goals.  This won’t be pretty, and will sometimes be boring, but it will pay off in the bigger picture down the road.

4. Prioritize Your “Needs” First

Too many people have a “wish” list or a want-to-have vision board.  The problem with this is that these things are great to want but for many are not a need or solve an immediate problem for them.  That is why, in my opinion, every year the majority of resolutions are those that weren’t fulfilled from previous years.  

How many of you are still trying to stop smoking or still trying to lose weight?  How many of you are setting resolutions to make more money or buy a new car?  Ask yourself this, do you need more money or do you need a new car?  Let’s get more specific.  Do you need to make a million dollars or do you want to?  

Making your needs a priority first will only laser sight your focus and keep the main things the main things.  It’s not a bad thing to want big and fancy things in life, but if you are truly trying to create a better life then its the needs that must be accomplished first.

“It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.” – Bruce Lee

5. Make It Personal

So you want to make an impact? You want to help others?  How can you effectively do that if you haven’t accomplished your goals first?  Someone once told me that it is hard to talk to a millionaire if you have never made a million dollars yourself.  That hit home with me because what he was telling me was that I should focus on making my first million and then discussing with others how to make my second.  

By getting personal or even a little selfish in achieving things for yourself first, you will only help strengthen your mindset and build the confidence in others that will help you along the way. There is an old saying that the only person who can help you is you; however, you can find some true guidance along the way to make that journey a little less painful but only if you are truly being honest with yourself about what you want to achieve.

Stop recreating the wheel or even resetting the same resolution every year.  Stop waiting for the new year to roll around before you want to try change your situation or even improve your life.  

Get serious about solving your problems and developing habits of change because you are ditching a new year resolution for finding the solutions to those things that have held you back from achieving all you’ve always wanted to achieve.

What are you going to do differently this year to make this year the best one yet? Leave your thoughts below!

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You manifested your vision, and now you’re living your deepest calling. Or, at least, that’s what you tell yourself. But you don’t sleep well. Your body feels sluggish and unsteady. Your appetite is nearly non-existent, as are your self-care routines. Worst of all, the intense workload is creating physical or attentive distance between you and the people and activities you love.

Still, the thought of leaving is inconceivable. After all, this was your vision; how could it have led you astray? And how could there possibly be a greater calling for you than this?

This scenario played out in my life years ago, when I followed a vision to open up a yoga studio. It is only now, having left that world to become an author and freelance writer, can I see how my vision prevented me from discovering my true calling for far too long.

Heeding a Calling

“There is no greater gift to give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” – Oprah

You’ve got a great vision for yourself. You picture yourself doing this far into the future. But is it a vision that is in support of your greater calling? Or is it merely a shiny ball, keeping you distracted and too busy to fulfill something richer? Here are four questions to ask yourself to find out:

1. Where did the vision originate?

A true calling is often so unusual and unique, it will make your ego—which is more comfortable with conformity and mix-and-match creations— quake in its boots. True callings originate far beyond an ego’s temporary hungers for validity and approval. If the vision originated to soothe your ego’s lack of confidence or as a way to gain desired acceptance, it’s likely not a true calling but a temporary vision. On the other hand, if your vision scares you (and your ego), it might well be the real deal.

2. Who is the vision trying to please?

A vision can be born out of other people’s opinions and expectations for us without us actually knowing it. For example, you envision yourself becoming a doctor because your parents were doctors. You plan to go into theater or sports because that’s what the people around you enjoy. You might be a natural at something, even if it would be better as a hobby.

A calling, on the other hand, is pure and untouchable. It doesn’t try to please anyone but merely seeks expression. And that’s okay, because when you find your calling, it won’t matter to you what anyone thinks. One hint: A powerful calling is often more in line with what society needs rather than what it wants.

3. How far can you trace the vision back?

Our calling is an innate part of us; it was born when we were. But, as we grow older and get inundated with societal influences, our early loves and passions can get buried or silenced. 

Then, moving through life, we might become infatuated with some new thing, and immediately determine that that’s our vision for the future. But like many doomed love affairs, an infatuation often cools and interest wanes. 

Not so with a calling. You’ll know something is a true calling if it never goes away, no matter what we might cover it up with temporarily. Try thinking back to what you loved most as a child. Were you a natural peacemaker? Did you love organizational or strategic games? Did you take diligent notes? Your childhood loves and innate talents can give you a clue as to what your true calling is.

4. What kind of payment/sacrifice is your vision asking for?

Both a temporary vision and a deeper calling will demand certain sacrifices from us to bring them to fruition. But what, exactly, are they demanding? Are they demanding you walk away from people and activities you love? Are they overshadowing your needs for leisure, travel, or other personal desires? If your vision forces you to choose between the other activities and people you love, it might not be a true calling.

True callings magically and seamlessly weave all the parts of ourselves together into a cohesive sense of rightness. Keep in mind this simple wisdom: Temporary visions can swallow us whole. True callings make us whole.

Finding your calling can provide a sense of wholeness and rightness that breathes life into the deepest, truest voice within you. When in the throws of following a vision, it can be easy to assume you’ve found your calling. But even the most potent vision is not necessarily a reflection of our calling. So, look closely at where your vision originated, who it is pleasing, how far you can trace it back, and what kind of payment it is demanding. Then and only then can you gain the clarity you need and, if necessary, ditch your vision to make space for your calling.

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